The lesson

To love is gift and a curse.

Loving someone is the greatest feeling ever and at the same time it is a burden on one's part. As most of us know, when we love someone we not only give up the time we allocate for ourselves but in a way we also give up our whole being for that person. I sometimes see it as a modern way of sacrificial giving, instead of a lamb, you sacrifice your heart. Though you don't cut it out literally but when the moment comes the person you love can no longer reciprocate the love you give, you'd only wish it be taken out forcefully.

I'm not an expert on the subject of how to get over the person you once loved or the secrets of how to keep a relationship strong 101. I do know however that you can only get over someone when you decide so for yourself. You can be happy again when you choose to be happy. You either choose to stand or fall, it's always your call. The sickening truth in some cases is that some people love the pain unconsciously. That's why they continue to mourn for the relationship that would have worked out if it was actually meant to be. 

The second thing I know is that you always have to keep in mind that there is no such thing as forever. The inevitable will happen, you will die. The same thing as how you came into this world, you crawled out of your mother's tunnel alone and alone you shall leave the face of the earth. 

Third, believe in the saying an eye for an eye. There is always a price or an exchange for everything in life. But you'll learn a lot from this exchange. See, you will never learn to appreciate the sunshine if it doesn't rain. You can't appreciate happiness without sadness nor will you appreciate the ups of life if you haven't experienced being down. Most certainly then, you can never appreciate love if you won't get hurt. There is always that unwritten contract that when you love, you have to be prepared to get hurt. We sometimes miss out and forget about that fact. And it's no wonder why we crawl in a ball of regret in the end.

Fourth, stay away from fairy tale books. Stay in the reality and never in the world of make believe. Don't copy the lives of the characters in the books you read. You could either work your way into creating your own lovely story or rot and wait for the wrong princess or prince charming. Be my guest.

Lastly,  live in the moment. Live here and now. Live in the present. It's okay to dream of a future with your partner but never to the point where you'd have everything too planned out. Spontaneity is one of the keys for a long lasting relationship.

And so there, the results may vary but that's just me. I don't believe that love can survive a million light years. I only believe that the love you have now is a blessing. You can't have it forever that's why you have to value every moment of the wonderful feeling. So when the love is gone, you won't regret on anything but rather be glad to find out that you are capable of loving and surviving the hurt it brings.

~myeviltwin